Are you tired of second guessing yourself?
You can be capable, thoughtful and self-aware and still feel stuck. Probably years were spent trying harder and maybe that is the problem.
Last thing you now want is another person with all the answers. You need space to discover your own.
ONLINE therapy across Australia 23 yrs of helping thoughtful people navigate difficult patterns, self-doubt and life's pivots
Online therapy means you can show up exactly as you are and where you are. There is no commute, no waiting rooms or rushing across town after work, just a quiet space, a cup of coffee and time to focus on your stuff.
We all find ways to cope..
overthinker
You have lived in analysis paralysis and have considered all the angles possible but you still don’t know what to do.
relationship recycler
You find yourself in relationships with different people but continue to experience the same old patterns.
the people-pleaser
You seem to anticipate what everyone else needs but have lost touch with what you need.
the strong one
People tend to lean on you and run to you for help, but you are now exhausted of always looking like you have it all together.
resentful helper
You feel bitter, frustrated or taken advantage of and wish for some clean boundaries that protect your energy and well-being.
life transitioner
You are going through a shift in life and are trying to find your feet in that process. It seems that adjusting to the new – even the positive new – is proving pretty rough.
“Strong Back. Soft Front. Wild Heart” –
Joan Halifax
This is what many of us are trying to learn: building strength to hold ourselves up, softening so we can stay connected and keeping the wild heart – which is about living with trust and honesty.
The thing is that none of us arrive there and stay there. More often, we drift and forget. Life throws us curve balls.
Therapy work is about noticing when we’ve wandered away and finding our way back. And – almost forgot to mention this part: to keep at it.
It isn’t that you don’t know enough. Most of the people I work with are intelligent, capable, thoughtful and highly self-aware.
You have probably read the books, listened to the podcasts and talked things through endlessly. So, your problem is not a lack of insight: you get it. Cognitively. But, somewhere along the way, you have stopped trusting yourself and what you know in the depths of your soul, what you have experienced and what is real to you.
I’m not here to tell you how to live your life. What I am here to do is to help you hear yourself clearly enough that your own answers become the answers you trust.
What to expect?
We Start Where You Are
You don’t need to have it all figured out before you arrive.
Bring the overthinking, the messy bits, the uncertainty, the head full of thoughts. We’ll start there.
Let’s Untangle Things
Together, we’ll slow things down enough to make sense of what’s happening.
We’ll notice the patterns, assumptions, and ways of coping that may have helped once but aren’t helping now.
Sometimes the problem isn’t what you think it is.
Try Something New
Insight is helpful and you might already have plenty of it.
But – insight without action is just another thing to think about at 2am.
So we’ll experiment with practical tools, new ways of responding, and changes both big and small – that you can actually notice in everyday life.
The goal isn’t perfection. It is finding what works for you.
Find Your Way Back
Therapy is not about becoming someone different. It’s about helping you find your way back to yourself. This means less second-guessing or outsourcing of your decisions. It also means more trust in your own judgment and your ability to handle what life throws your way. Therapy goal isn’t for you to need me forever but for you to hear your own voice (again) and start listening.
What are People Saying
Meet me
Meet Luciana
I have been working with Australians since 2003.
Also, I have sat on both sides of the therapy couch for long enough to know that insights alone are often not enough.
Life gets messy, grief changes you and starting over is rarely ever graceful. My own challenges keep me reminded that I’m not separate from the people I work with and that is one of the valuable things I bring to this work.
These days, I work online and keep my practice intentional.
Doing this for more than twenty years has made me slower and less interested in clever answers. I am much more ore interested in understanding what keeps pulling us back into the same old places. That’s where the real work is and that’s where the change begins.
Watching that process unfold is one of the greatest privileges of my work and decades on, it still feels quite extraordinary.
Why I work this way?
Therapy isn’t something I only do between appointments. It’s a subject I keep coming back to because I’m endlessly interested in people and how we change. I read, listen, learn, talk with colleagues, sit in supervision and I still sit in the client chair myself. I don’t think it’s fair to ask people to do work I’m not willing to do myself. I think that the people who come to see me deserve a therapist who’s still growing too.
When your mind won’t switch off, and it is starting to run the show. We work through the patterns behind the anxiety so you can feel more steady and in control.
While you may look capable on the outside, there is second-guessing and overwhelm bubbling underneath. We dig beneath your doubt so that you can trust yourself again or maybe for the very first time.
Anger is not a problem. What happens with it can be. We explore what sits underneath it and how it’s being expressed or held back. We practice giving your anger somewhere productive to go.
One of my teachers asks these questions when we find ourselves tangled up in taking on too much. They’re simple and surprisingly hard to answer honestly:
- What is mine to say?
- What is mine to do?
- What is mine to care about?
- What is not mine to say?
- What is not mine to do?
- What is not mine to care about?
Having the same old argument only in a different kitchen?
At some point, every relationship brings us back to the same place – ourselves. Therapy is about learning how we want to show up this time.
On paper, your life works but something isn’t sitting right with you anymore. We get honest about that and to figure out what needs to change.
If you are not looking for someone to fix you but instead, for somewhere you can stop pretending you’ve got it all together – that’s where we can begin.