There are some situations though where going in a counter-intuitive direction is much better! In my opinion, this is one of them: You and your partner split. Mainly this will be an unequal decision as usually, one person wants to end it (more) than the other. The person wanting to stay in the relationship is likely to try and persuade, control, convince, coerce, manipulate, rationalise etc the other, into ‘making it work’. All of their focus goes into the Other person.
And how about acting counter-intuitively? Honour the fact that something is not (or has not) worked for the other person. Talk if you can, so you get a better understanding of what ‘went wrong’. Then re-focus your energy on Yourself. Work on growing as a person, distract yourself from the negativity, reconnect with old friends, re-engage in activities that make your life good, get in touch with your spirituality & learn to self care and love you! This is by far, the best outcome for you personally and (ironically or not) – the
best way for the relationship to be re-kindled (if there is any hope for it)
Think about it! What attracts and what repels you?
I THANK my Dad again, for another one of his ‘Pearls of Wisdom’....what a great one! What an absolute Legend! <3
Love and hugs xx